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Single Women Need Help: Online Dating 101 – For Women!

I get such a kick out of hearing online dating horror stories. But you know what the really funny thing is? They’re mostly from men.

I hear way more horror stories from men than I ever do women. Hearing yet another one today prompted me to talk about it here.

The complaints I hear are almost always the same. Apparently women are notorious for misrepresenting themselves online. Shame on you ladies! If you’re a single woman doing online dating, this is a list of WHAT NOT TO DO. So pay attention because these three things are a major turn-off for men.

  1. Don’t post old photos. Men don’t care about how you looked ten years ago, or even five years ago. They want to know how you look TODAY. Ladies, you must realize that men are visual so attraction for them has to work on a visual level first. Call it superficial, but that’s the way they’re hard-wired. If you don’t have any recent photos then hire a photographer to take some. Make the effort to make the best first impression you possibly can.
  2. Don’t post only one photo. This makes men think you’re hiding something. Post at least five photos in various settings so the men viewing your profile get a sense of you in a variety of environments.
  3. Don’t answer profile questions with short one-word or one-sentence answers. Be conversational when answering your profile questions. Write like you talk. Be yourself and be elaborate in your answers. Here’s a suggestion: when you’re writing your profile, imagine that you’re talking to one man. Write like you are having a conversation with him, sharing your heart with him. Men respond to authentically written, heart-felt profiles.

Bottom line is put some heart and soul into your profile, otherwise don’t even bother. Your complacency will not attract quality men. But a thoughtfully written profile with a sufficient number of current photos will attract them in droves.

(By the way, I do hope online dating is only one strategy you’re using to meet men. There are so many other ways.)

Patti Rose
Dating & Relationship Coach